Hello pauli. Welcome aboard.
I like what you say. You are sticking to the Freudian concept of mans struggle with his sexual being and his sexuality. In this case you seem dead on, since men seem to obsess on their 'little fella'. It is true that men are sexually inferior to the womans sexuality, but like our leaders, we have to be the top dog tooting our horns and strutting our stuff- like the braindead cocks we are. It's truly a show and based completely on the survival instinct- the eventual goal being spreading your genes and continuing your lineage. Women are viewed as resources and so we have the results in the real world for our fears, in the form of violence- from the home to the planet.
Sometimes I wish men would just grow up and realize how like like scared little children they really are. They are permanently stuck in the 6-12 year stage of development and doomed, with a sex drive that diminishes after 18, while women are just starting to develop sexually. I think age is the reason older men used to get so angry and were willing to go to wars, but you think with viagra they would be a little happier in their old age. I guess sex doesn't even make men happy either. It's just another excuse for them to feel inadequate, but hey nature says you have to do this for the sake of the species. Get out there and Strut your stuff!
The way is the tao and we as men have lost our way. Perhaps we should look at our close cousins the Bonobo, as a model of how we could learn to get along- by making sex a commonality and not a reason to compete. Think of all the complications to life because of modelling and mirroring in our society, where perfection is seen as the ultimate goal. The pressures to be 'just so' are incredible on everyone, for success today. Violence in our culture, as a solution, exists all through our society and an example is the violence against women in our society. Sex and violence is our message and our culture is focused on those two concepts. And to think this all stems from fear, male ego/pride and genetic imperatives to succeed.
You and I have opened a pandora's box here of options that go contrary to the patriarcal system. Until man figures out and acknowledges the superiority of the female we will be stuck fighting ourselves, internally and externally. This is also the way of the tao, for we exist in harmony between these points of chaos. Where there is discord, there is loss of balance. All we really want is bliss and understanding, so why do we have to fight?
Hope no one gets the wrong idea's about the Bonobo thing. Their wrongly advertised sexual reputation hides a fact that we never get told; they never engage in conflict over mates and they live in a successful matriarchal society. Leave it to a lower species to show us where we go wrong- all this thinking thinking thinking.