Sex is a very important part in a relationship
I agree with that statement up to a point. Sex is
important, but it shouldn't be the key element that binds a couple together. Why? Because usually a sexual attraction is one of the first things to deteriorate between couples as they age.
Speaking as a woman in my mid-fifties, I believe that any couple needs more than just good sex if they're going to be together through the long haul. At age 35 I divorced my first husband and began a five year stint of single living. For the first time in my life, I really felt free to do as I pleased. I dated a lot...men from many different walks of life, and of a variety of ages and appearances. Among them, I had several excellent lovers, but we did have to get out of bed now and then.
That's when I really realized that good sex was important, but it wasn't the main thing I was looking for. So, jobot, you will go through phases as you travel through the years that will cause you, too, to view sex in many different connotations.
When I met the man I am married to now, he embodied everything I'd ever wanted in a relationship. I knew it the instant I met him. Some of you may laugh at that statement, but it's true. Our 16 year marriage sizzles, and that's because we both care about making sure it stays that way. We've been through some tough times, but those times have served to solidify the relationship. We also give each other lots of space to be individuals as well as one part of a couple. My husband never tries to control me, and I never try to control him. We trust each other completely, and we are both very comfortable and secure within this marriage. I have friends of both genders, and so does he. IF he has lunch with a female client, I'm not jealous nor am I worried that he's going to jump into bed with her before he comes home. We spend a part of our evenings together talking about people we've encountered in the course of the day, what they said and how they behaved, and how we perceived them. My husband is out and about more than I am now, so he meets a lot of folks that I never see. He often has some very interesting tales to tell about them.
I truly believe that some people are absolute soulmates, and that good karma brings them together. It was another person's flakines that brought about our meeting and, had that person not been like she was, and had she not been a friend of mine, my husband and I would probably never have crossed paths.