Good points GR. Check this out from the Queer eye on a straight guys evil eye.
http://www.petertatchell.net/masculinit ... %20men.htm
Peter Tatchell is a member of the gay rights group OutRage!, and the author of "Safer Sexy: The Guide To Gay Sex Safely" (Freedom Editions/Cassell, 1994).
Woman’s Journal, January 1999
WHAT STRAIGHT MEN COULD LEARN FROM GAY MEN - A QUEER KIND OF MASCULINITY?
PETER TATCHELL says gay men show that being a man doesn't have to involve machismo.
The vast majority of violent criminals are men. Our courts and prisons are crammed with male offenders who have mugged, vandalised, raped and burgled. The cost to the taxpayer is staggering, and the suffering caused is immense.
Blaming men is, alas, a little too simplistic. When it comes to crimes of violence, it is not men in general who are the culprits but a very specific type of man. As well as being mostly young, poor, uneducated and unemployed, violent criminals are overwhelmingly heterosexual. Although not all straight men are thugs, nearly all thugs are straight. It is disproportionately young male heterosexuals who revel in the machismo of violence and vandalism. They are the ones who go on the rampage terrorising women, smashing up council estates, robbing the elderly and getting into drunken fist-fights.
Gay men, in contrast, rarely participate in such belligerent behaviour. Usually more gentle and refined, most of us queers prefer to love men rather than fight them.
So why are straight males different? Macho attitudes begin in childhood, with boys toys and games that encourage competitive, domineering behaviour. Not surprisingly, many young men end up viewing rivalry and aggression as normal male conduct.
This normalisation of the macho mind-set is reinforced and legitimated by cultural icons of masculinity, such as tough-nut football stars like Vinny Jones and action-movie heroes like Bruce Willis. These symbols of modern maleness link being a 'real man' with machismo and womanising. Their public personas promote the idea that a hard, uncompromising masculinity is not only sexy and desirable, but also part and parcel of the socially-prized state of male heterosexuality.
Gay men deviate from this masculine norm. We are generally (though not always) less fully masculinised than our straight counterparts. This queer 'unmanliness' is, in fact, a great virtue. It is precisely our incomplete embrace of masculinity and our unwillingness to 'act like a man' that - thankfully - makes so many gay men disinclined to violence. Looking at gay celebrities like Marc Almond and Boy George, it is difficult to imagine them terrorising anyone - except perhaps with their make up.
I just recently saw Brokeback Mountain and to me the reason so many straight guys don't want to see this movie is because they may see too much of themselves in it. fear is the thing that triggers them, but funny too is the fact that when they go to jail, they can do it without thinking that there is anything wrong. Perhaps the closet effect of being in the Privacy of your little crowbar hotel gives you the right to indulge in sex with men while pretending to be straight.
This is also true of pedophiles- over 80% claim they are straight. http://www.ralliance.org/TVC_RecruitChildren.html
Response to the Traditional Values Coalition:
Homosexuals Recruit Public School Children
If one wants to keep gays out of the schools to prevent them from counteracting the mischaracterizations that are the daily experience of many how would one go about it? The most efficient and effective way is to appeal to the fear parents have when it comes to their kids. Nothing makes a parent move swifter or with more purpose than when they think their children are in harm’s way.
The Traditional Values Coalition has attempted to use the parents of school age children to further their purpose of denying gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered people equal treatment under the law and inhibit their ability to counteract the falsehoods spread about them. They attempt to accomplish this by claiming a LGBT presence in the school system presents a danger to children.
They set the stage by using language that is meant to alarm, inflame and frighten…
“homosexual allies want to decriminalize sex with our children”…
“are pushing for aggressive recruitment programs in public schools.”
They play on the ignorance or lack of understanding of Homosexuality or Gender Issues.
They equate homosexuality with pedophilia. They claim age of consent issues are gays wanting sex with kids. This sends parents into protection mode. What bigger fear does a parent have than their child being sexually assaulted or molested?
Boy doesn't this help describe the narrow minded fear filled religious dogma that homophobes live with. Imagine being so mentally crippled by fear that you have to invent enemies to keep from accepting that the real problem lies with the bigoted individual and his fear filled programming.
Here's another great article that goes into the right's abuse of facts and figures to "FIT" the facts into their agenda-http://www.internationalorder.org/scandal_response.html
Dr. Gene Abel is a Professor of Psychiatry at Emory University and a former president of the National Society for Behavioral Medicine. He has been a researcher in the field of sexual violence for over twenty-five years and has published over 100 scientific articles. A number of years ago, Abel completed an eight‑year study for the National Institute of Mental Health of 403 child molesters. He found that child molesters do not usually fit popular stereotypes:
Most of us think that a child molester is a rather slimy individual( a stranger in town, sitting in his car near a schoolyard, luring children with candy. Our findings reveal that, on the contrary, the child molester is not a stranger, but is someone we know well. He often is a man we trust, a man our children trust. . . . As a rule, he is married and has children of his own whom he usually does not molest. He is almost always a well‑respected, even loved, member of his community. He is often an active Christian who is involved in his church.
In his study, Dr. Abel found that nonincestuous offenders against boys have many more victims than nonincestuous offenders against girls; specifically, offenders against males averaged approximately 150 victims, while offenders against females averaged only 20 victims. This statistic has been used by the conservative Christian group Focus on the Family, which claims that since homosexuals molest seven times as many victims as heterosexuals, “homosexuals, as a group, represent a serious threat.”
However, Gene Abel explicitly states that most cases of boy molestation cannot be attributed to homosexuals:
[M]ost men who molest little boys are not gay. Only 21 percent of the child molesters we studied who assault little boys were exclusively homosexual. Nearly 80 percent of the men who molested little boys were heterosexual or bisexual, and most of these men were married and had children of their own.
Based on Abel’s statistics, if approximately 33 percent of all molestations are male-on-male, and 21 percent of these cases are committed by homosexuals, the actual percentage of molesters who are homosexual is 21% x 33% = 6.9%. Keeping in mind that even the best surveys have a margin of error of a few percentage points, this figure is pretty close to the figures usually given for the total percentage of homosexuals in the overall population, which is about five percent. In other words, homosexual males are not a significantly greater threat to children proportionately than straight males. (In fact, one could argue that since the number of molestations committed by females is relatively rare, it is clear that lesbians pose less of a threat to children than straight males.)
So DK if youre going to post trash and flaming material and excuse it with
Of course that is just my opinion. Others can have theirs no matter how wrong they are.
I'm sure that most bigoted people feel this way until they are shown that they are wrong. Hope this is what you were looking for when you asked your question. Have we covered all the things you were going to question? Thank us for having the foresight to see what you were doing and go ahead and answer all your questions, like we knew you were going to ask them anyway. Of course, that is just my opinion. Of course you're entitled to yours, no matter how wrong it is!:wink: