I think if men made their partner feel safe and secure instead of trying to be right and dominate in every situation, that it would go a long way in raising the low dirtbag male standard that is out there.
Women need to feel loved and cared for. This should be a mans first priority to his mate- to share and care about someone beyond himself. Mommy isn't there now, just another human being you swore to love and care for.
If they can't do that simple thing then they should just go live alone with their fears and convince themselves of their rightness in this- THEY were the victim. I had a friend over like that last nite, you know looking for sympathy, and I told him this is what I would expect a man to do with the person he's been with for 10 years. Some men- it ends up that it's up to men to censure men and correct them. Women try, but when you have no formal training in fairness and balance like most men, it should be decent men who rise up to the defense of women.
That they have an unwritten code of fellowship in this misogynistic repression of women's emotions speaks volumes about this male dominated world. If you control them they will never find their true inner strengths. And believe me, they are powerful. That scares men and makes them act the
ing way they do- fear and that includes fear of loss and loneliness. To face this reality means that it makes it OK to treat people as second, third class citizens if women are included in the caste system and can be treated by lists such as a 'rating on legs' male standard.
This is what I find most
ing about my fellow men and I call them whenever I can on it!! Sometimes I get threatened, but I think,"If this asshole can threaten me over calling him on his bullshit, what would he do to a defenseless woman that he dominates, who finally stands up to him"?
It helps me to know I'm doing the right thing- one person at a time. Men should learn to use their minds first before they act or blurt out things they'll regret later. That's an example of male emotional outbursts- letting off steam, they coin it.
It seems it's OK for men to show anger as an emotion, but not tears. Are these phenomenon associated?
If you as a man do something stupid in haste, you may have a long time to sit and reason it out- alone.