Channel Zero wrote:
I've always wondered just how much a "child" loses of themselves when a parent dies at the child's early age.
I'm 37 and lost my father this summer, of natural causes but quite suddenly nonetheless.
Honestly, for as much devastation and crushing numbness as I went through, I've gained something also. In a way that won't necessarily make sense when translated through a forum post, I changed spiritually in a certain way where somehow my father's wisdom is swirled in my spirit, making me more of a warrior than ever before. A sci-fi based metaphor might be when Ben Kenobi died, he actually became more deeply interwoven with Luke Skywalker's destiny than he ever could have if he had remained alive. In this way, while I've lost my father in this life, I've gained something also. And not just a spiritual interweaving and strengthening for my future destiny, but a strong inner conviction to make a permanent commitment to self-improvement, as a way of honoring my father's life as much as possible.
With all that said, I have no idea what the orphaned children of Iraq must be experiencing, because they're losing their parents to war, and they're losing much more than their parents. Even if they weren't losing their parents, they're still suffering under war. And that's more like what I consider to be a "real" problem than my personal experience with losing a parent.
For anyone who hasn't lost a parent, you're in for a treat. You WILL feel the weight of the world fall squarely on your shoulders, where it will stay for the rest of your life. I've found that the best way to handle that challenge is to make sure you live up to your calling.